03 Jul Relationships that need a number of associated with the events to “fix” one other always stops in dissatisfaction. It typically follows this development
– The “fixer” is wanting to do just about anything to help the “fixee”. The fixee becomes determined by the fixer to solve their issues.
– The fixee does not put work into enhancing on their own, on their own. They are able to make changes that are temporary will return straight right straight back. They feel insecure as a result of it. They feel more serious about by themselves and out of defensiveness may blame the fixer with regards to their struggles that are continued.
– The fixer gets frustrated in the not enough progress since they worry. They might have the fixee is not as committed to their own improvement and locate that to be selfish. The fixer seems hurt and unappreciated being the only person setting up work to get blamed for wanting to assist. This all builds resentment which they sign up for on the fixee.
– This cycle of insecurity, resentment, attacking, and not enough modification persists. Either both events stay miserable or somebody fundamentally renders.