So, You Want to Try Anal Sex… a Beginner’s Guide

So, You Want to Try Anal Sex… a Beginner’s Guide

So, You Want to Try Anal Sex… a Beginner’s Guide

Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook4Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: For Men, For Women, Sex James the Sinnerman is a fairly new blogger from England. He writes about his hedonistic adventures and love for the finer things in life. You can read more about him here. He featured our Miss. Taylor Cast as one of the Sinner’s Sirens. Click here to read his write up on Taylor and then take some time to explore his blog. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook0Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Asides, Uncategorized Jay Cutler, Please, please don’t ruin my weekend by throwing 8 interceptions. That too much to ask? You hear it all the time from guys, “ I love women who love sports.” I believe this to be true.

Why is it that a love for competitive sport is so important to so many guys?stripchat/dopaminefiends I think, for starters, us guys really just want to see our woman more or less be naked, covered only by our favorite team’s jersey. However, for this weekend, I need some reassurance that I’m not going to hate life. In order to accomplish that, I need the help of one person in particular. I’m talking to you Jay Cutler! So get off Kristin and listen to what this guy has to say! Dearest Jay Cutler, I am not a Bears fan myself, however, I am a fan of my girlfriend. You see, my girlfriend and I have enjoyed some amazing Sundays together this NFL season; absolutely the best, really. There have been a few crappy Sundays, too, and it’s primarily because you sometimes forget to throw the ball to the right guy.

It happens to everyone one, some people less than others. I’ll forgive you. My woman is a big fan of the Bears and you, by association. Needless to say you’ve let her down sometimes and brought joy other times. This wouldn’t matter so much if it didn’t directly affect my happiness on a Sunday. When you decide to throw four picks in a game, imagine me with a ripped shirt, mangled hair and a complete absence of self respect. When you get sacked, like five times in a game, imagine that I’m wearing a television as a hat. What’s that Jay Cutler? Televisions weren’t meant to be worn as a hat? I concur! They’re not! But when you play like an asshole, bad things happen to me, Jay.

Pure and simple. I enjoy life a little bit less when you… play less than *not* good. That brings me to your little game against Green Bay this weekend. I’m sitting here, typing, believing that you will play a good game, just like you did against the formidable Seahawks (note sarcasm). Jay, I’m not gonna lie to you; a win against Aaron Rodgers and the Packers would make my girlfriend happy. Very happy. It would save me money on insurance deductibles for both medical and home owners policies I have. My ability to be happy hinges on you being a big boy and rising to the occasion aka sucking less than the other guy. I’m also going to suggest you sequester Kristin Cavallari.

Send her packing to Abu Dabi, or wherever it was that Garfield used to send Odie. Packer up and Fedex her right the hell out of your immediate sphere of influence. Please. Learn from that clown, Romo and what Simpson did to him. In fact, I don’t want you to even whack off prior to the game. Literally leave it all on the field, Jay. You owe that to me, dammit! For the love of baby Jesus (my favorite of all the Jesuses) find a way to not lose, give your defense a chance to win it for you and the team.

Thanks, Jay. Sincerely, Alex Van Poppel. Go Bears! #end http://theurbandater.posterous.com/an-open-letter-to-jay-cutler-dont-fck-up-my-h email Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships Tagged in: chicago bears, green bay packers Some pictures require no caption. This is one of em! There I was staring up at the ceiling and contemplating that I wasn’t posting another super gooey and sweet post about being in love with my awesome girlfriend to piss Taylor off with (which is my secret pleasure by the way, pissing off Miss TaylorCast. Shh!).

Dating for the First Time as a Single Parent

Nope, not this day. I was contemplative as I lay on my girlfriend’s bed, with her in my arms wondering about the future, as was she. We’d sort of had the “kids” talk… Again. You know the one. Do you? Don’t you? As is the fine tradition and belief at the Urban Dater, if you can bleed it, people will want to read it. That said, kids.

Let’s talk about that for a few minutes. This isn’t the first time my woman and I have had the “talk” about kids. She wants em and I think they’re scary and gross. I’m sure if you weren’t offended by the image for this post, then the scary and gross assessment of babies has probably pushed you over the edge. The first time we talked about it, it was sandwiched with the marriage talk, which I gotta give kudos to my woman for heaping those burning topics together so nicely. Averse to confrontation? Not my woman, let me tell you! That conversation posed to critical questions for me. Am I ready for marriage and do I want kids. At the time, marriage seemed like a for-off possibility and I could entertain the idea of kids. Time has passed, though, and I can say that, yeah, kids are not what I want. Though, I can see myself getting married and I can see myself marrying my girlfriend. She’s that awesome. So what is it about these dang kids? I’m not crazy about kids, they don’t really fit into what I want to do with life. In fact, I could do not delay – on about why I don’t really want a baby.

It all boils down to this: I’m selfish. That’s it. I’m selfish. People tell me “Alex, you’d make a great father!” Yeah and you’d make a great lamppost if you just stood in one place and kept your yap shut! This discussion is definitely one you make peace with before things get serious. I’ve ignored that bit of wisdom and now, like Obama with Tax Cut extensions for all Americans, I have tough decisions to make. No, no. I’m not going back on the kids thing and I wouldn’t expect my girl to be okay not having them…That night, when we were on her bed, we wer quiet as we each mulled over our feelings and thoughts.

My girlfriend mused, “So, what do couples without kids do anyway?” It didn’t take me long to answer. Couples without kids do a lot of things. Some of the ones I know buy expensive four bedroom houses in affluent neighborhoods, the renovate one room and make it into a mini-theater, complete with plush movie theater seats and a wall mounted projection screen. Couples without kids drive out to the desert and jump their powerful shiny bikes all over the place, load em up in the motor home and go back to their house with the rest of their toys… Sounds selfish, materialistic and… meaningless. Doesn’t it? Meh. Now, I’m just whining and feeling sorry for myself. Time, though, has a way of changing things sometimes, in ways we don’t always expect. I’ll take as much time as I’m given and just kinda see what happens… Which is pretty much what I said after the first time we had this talk. The clock is ticking and who knows how much time is left and I don’t want to have to write that one post… You know the post… I hate even the thought of it. Weigh in on this. What do you think about my sad sack of suckery spilt above? Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox!

Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Relationships Tagged in: babies, children, Relationships, the talk Aaaaaaagh! The good folks at Metanotherfrog.com must love punishment because they have posted another guest post from everyone’s favorite arse-hole: Alex (Yannibmbr)! This post is about a particularly bad date that I went on once, many, many moons ago. The memory is seared and etched in my memory… Owwww. So go on over and read the article and leave a comment, just like your mama told you to! My guest post over at Met Another Frog. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Asides Tagged in: bad dates, met another frog Love and philanthropy indeed go hand at your fingertips. Eva Longoria has revealed that she is dating Ernesto Arguello, A miami-based philanthropist and entrepreneur hailing from Texas like Longoria herself. Media reports swirled months ago that the two had something romantic in the works, but the pair were, in fact, just friends until recently when they began to wonder of the media could see something they hadn’t yet discovered for themselves!https://topadultreview.com/

Now, the pair is traveling together and appears to be a terrific match. The Meeting Longoria met Arguello after he was cast on a show she was producing—Ready for Love. While the handsome Honduran chose a former Miss USA to be his romantic paramour, the relationship ran its course back in 2012. Having begun their friendship during the filming of the show, the pair decided that there was more to their relationship than just friendship and began seeing each other just recently.

When Your Rebound Uses You

The media may have noticed sparks three months ago before the pair began dating and, perhaps, interested fans caught news of the suspicions on Satellite TV; however, their love appears to be quite new and, delightfully, based on a friendship they’ve cultivated for many months now. Longoria in the News The Desperate Housewives star was recently in the news for her publicized divorce from San Antonio Spurs point guard Tony Parker. Their divorce was finalized in 2011. Longoria was also married to Tyler Christopher, a Young and the Restless co-star who appeared with Longoria during her stint with the show from 2002-2004. Longoria’s fan base has following Longoria in the course of her relationships and many believe she has finally met her match as both share a similar cultural heritage, religion, and commitment to philanthropy. Ernesto Arguello Along with his brother, Arguello began an organization responsible for building homes and community buildings in impoverished areas. His family hails from Honduras and many projects center there. In fact, he and Longoria recently traveled to Honduras together to meet with Arguellos’s family and check on the status of recent building projects. Arguello’s organization has built schools and homes for people without them in Honduras. Arguello was born in Texas but lives in Miami.

Love, Show Business, and Philanthropy Since the two share many common interests, fans are hopeful that their new romance may blossom into a long-term relationship. Longoria may not have worked out with the basketball star and Arguello may not have worked out with the beauty queen, but these two together appear to have a chemistry that is turning heads. As their relationship grows, count on the media to cover each step of the way. Fans want to hear all about their travels and plans for the future. Reports say that Arguello is “crazy” about Longoria and she has asserted how special their relationship is since they began as good friends. Media articles have been reporting how happy the couple looks and how cozy they appear when spotted together. With fans wishing them well, the pair is captivating onlookers who can’t help smiling at new love. Laura Bunbury is a writer for the stars. She loves to share happy stories about celebrities on entertainment blogs Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Online Dating Source: http://goo.gl/R1wVX For those of us who didn’t have much success with online dating in 2012, The New Year is the perfect time to start over and get our dating lives back in order. While many of us have different weaknesses in our dating lives that we need to work on, perhaps the best place to start is with self-confidence. Without being in the right state of mind, everything else suffers. So here are seven tips for reviving your confidence this New Year: 1. Remove the bad from your life.

Many studies show that when we surround ourselves with negative people, we in turn become increasingly negative. Those who surround us on a daily basis can have a powerful effect on how we feel mentally. So remove the bad from your life, and keep yourself surrounded by positive people. 2. Clean up your diet. This may seem like a strange tip for an article on dating, but its not. As the old saying goes, we are what we eat. Eating a cleaner and healthier diet will not only have us looking better, but feeling better mentally as well. 3. Work out for 45 minutes per day. Exercising daily releases powerful endorphins that will chemically put us in positive states of mind. a little exercise can go a long way towards bringing back that confidence. 4. Talk to several random strangers per day. Many people fail at dating because they are not comfortable with face-to-face interactions when meeting someone for the first time. Nerves on a first date can make us talk too fast, have diarrhea of the mouth, cause us to sweat profusely, or any number of other negative side effects. The best way to combat this is by becoming comfortable talking to anyone. Saying something random to a few strangers a day will help our confidence levels increase with all the interactions we have, both in the dating world, and in our daily lives as well. 5. Buy a new set of clothes.

Wearing clothes that flatter our bodies will have us feeling like new people and sending confidence levels to new heights. Buy some clothes that me you feel good, and reap the rewards of feeling fresh and better than ever on your first date. 6. Only pursue true potential matches. With online dating, too many men and women pursue members of the opposite sex that are not good matches at all. There are simply too many options out there. Then when our dates don’t work out, we wind up getting down in ourselves, even though we should have known that we never had a good shot to begin with. Avoid these inevitable failures by only dating people who seem like they have a good chance a being a match. This will increase the success rates, and in turn, the confidence that is built up from date up to now. 7. Develop your passions. If we become great, we will in turn feel great. We need to work on your passions and become more interesting person overall. The more we improve ourselves, the more we will feel as if we have something great to offer somebody else. For more online dating tips and advice from Joshua Pompey, click here Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox!

Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Self Tagged in: Online Dating, online dating New Year, self-confidence I’ve never been one to go after women who are younger than me. The number doesn’t bother me; the maturity level does have an impact, though. Usually then women I date are around my age and younger by a few years so “dating older women” hasn’t been so much of a reach for me because the ones I’ve been worth were close enough in age. When I was 22, I dated a woman briefly who was in her forties. I remember it well because she was direct. She came into my work on my last day, gave me her number and said Hey, we should get lunch sometime. Lunch turned into dinner instead, followed by a walk, and then an insanely spontaneous kiss. None of which I initiated. Our relationship had lasted all of a month before she was “done.” 17 years later and I still haven’t forgotten her. She put me in my place, and I liked it. I knew then that I enjoyed the company of older women and wanted to know more about how to date them. When I think about older women and why one should date older instead of younger I first get caught up on the comparison. It’s not a fair comparison. Because the premise of what an older woman is versus what a younger woman is bullshit. Our society likes to label things, people, and experiences to make it all the more palatable and easier to digest.

I get it. With my ex, she is my age. We met on Tinder. On Tinder, she put herself as being five years younger than she actually was. This isn’t uncommon among female online daters. I have a couple of other female friends who have done the same. Why? Well, lot of guys won’t date women older than them. A lot of men prefer women who are younger and typically much younger. Again, why? Some men think dating a younger woman is better because it’s easier to impress her. Some men feel younger women have “less emotional baggage.” For real, folks. Who comes up with this bullshit? It’s all garbage. I know plenty of young men AND women who have lots of emotional scar tissue; who have done and seen way more shit than I have. These baseless reasons are a crock and what happens is that a lot of wonderfully qualified and beautiful older women get passed up because of such neanderthal-type thinking exists.

The case for older women To be clear, case doesn’t need to be made for older women. Older women are fucking great and, as Aaliyah (RIP) once said: Age Ain’t Nothing but A number. I think back to the woman I dated when I was in my twenties, and I think back to my recent ex who is my age. Why was I drawn to them? Their strength. They did what they wanted to do; they didn’t have any fear about what they set about doing. They weren’t afraid to be themselves, to be funny, or to be fucking angry. They wore their clothing comfortably. They didn’t need to impress anyone because they were already impressive. My ex-was a soon-to-be ph.d. (now she is). The other lady had her shit in order, owned a few properties, raised a kick-ass daughter, and was fit like a brick house. These older women had confidence and a sense of adventure. They did what they wanted to do in life and were not ashamed of anything. If nothing else, they are simply victims of nature—yet our society likes to devalue women for aging like it’s their fault!

One of my good friends, who is a nurse, is only 33. She takes botox injections. She’s already quite beautiful. Someone put idea into her head that she needs to keep looking young to be attractive. This is a tragedy. Some people think that older women are all about commitment. That’s not true; older women like to have no-strings fun, too. Males and females enjoy companionship I think that’s something most of us can agree on, right? I don’t know where you fall on the commitment line, but an older woman can be your champion on either side. Don’t rule out a woman just because of a number; you’re missing out.

Photo Cred: Peter Miranda Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Online Dating Tagged in: Dating, older women Creepy little bed devils appearing on my belly? Happens all the time! True Fact! At some point in many of our lives, we will find someone to whom we are desperately attracted, and yet who endlessly hurts or exhausts us. The stakes seem so high, the desire is so deep, but so too the pain. In Fire: The Unexpurgated Diary of Anais Nin, Anais Nin writes of Henry Miller: “this love will either kill or save me forever.” Which will it be? Will the love slowly eat at your soul as you fruitlessly continue to search for the grail while suffocating in its tomb; or will it give you the courage to crusade, to fight to the death, and to discover something truly sacred?

One scrutinizes each decision, each gesture, each proclamation, all of which alternatively inspire either trepidation or hope.